I have numerous pet peeves. This one is one of the top 5. I won't list the others because neither of us has that much time. But it seems at the moment I am surrounded by martyrs who choose to be martyrs. I truly don't understand this. I have issues. We all have issues, but seriously?! I do NOT understand this.
I have this "friend" who BITCHES constantly to anyone who will listen about how she has to do ALL of the work and how NO ONE will help her and oh woe is me I am so oppressed!
OMG Will you shut the fuck up?!
She has to do ALL of the work by herself because anytime anyone ATTEMPTS to help her or OFFERS to help her she totally refuses. I have seen her push and grab things out of the other person's hand whenever they try to help her. She will NOT let anyone do anything and then bitches about having to do all of the work. I do not understand this.
I no longer bother with it. I figure if she wants my help, she knows where I am and how to ask and if she doesn't, then not my problem. She can bitch and moan all she wants to people. I don't really give a flying rat's ass what they think. I know the truth. That is good enough for me. But I do not get this.
Why be the fucking martyr? What do you get out of it other than a shitload of work? Do you know people like this? Please explain it to me because this is something I do not understand.
Feels so good being bad
There's no way I'm turning back
Now the pain is my pleasure
cause nothing could measure
"s&m-rhiana"
4 comments:
I am guilty of this. No one moves at the pace I do, so when chores need to done, or errands need to be run, instead of delegating them, I do them, and complain. I have this same issue at work. I tend to do a lot on my own when I could distribute work, be more patient, but my personality defect takes over.
It's difficult to wait for things to pan out when you THINK you can make them happen. The key is balancing what needs to be done with what has to be done, by YOU.
No, that isn't what I am talking about. That is something altogether different. I don't really know how to explain it I guess, but the voices get what I mean.
I know what you're talking about. There's a difference between doing things yourself because it's easier and quicker than delegating, and playing the victim because you WANT to be coddled and worshiped and be serenaded by your own personal violinist. There is probably nothing else about her worth loving, so she tries to measure her worth in fake sacrifices.
I get it.
Exactly.
My MIL.
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